Long distance friendships are something that I’ve lived with since I was twelve year’s old. Seven years later, my best friend is now in a university that is 45 minutes down the motorway but I still don’t see him half as much as I would like to. Even then, when we’re out of term time, Michael is a four hour car journey away and that’s not an easy journey to make. The amount of friendships that became long distance grew over last September when people started to move away for uni. It’s difficult to see each other. When they are back over the holidays, we don’t get to spend as much time with each other as we did when we were in school. And it always hurts when they go again but it is worth it.
The best advice I could give to anyone dealing with long distance friendships is to be understanding of the other person. It’s so difficult to work around other people’s lives but be understanding when plans change and when they might not be able to talk as often as you want to.
Take An Interest
I feel like it’s really easy to be swept away in your own life when you’re talking to someone who you don’t see on a day to day basis. Mostly because you want to be able to tell them everything that’s going on in your life but make sure that you still take an interest in what they’re doing. Always make sure just to take the time out to ask, otherwise you’re just talking at that person instead of having a conversation with them.
Make An Effort And Make The Most Of Your Time Together
For me, I don’t have a lot of time with the friends that don’t live near me. At least, not as much as I would like. So, when I do get the chance to see them, I make sure to make the most of it all. I try not to think about them leaving again because it just makes me upset. But I spend the time making sure that we have new memories to look back on. So, I’ve started taking more photos when I’m with them and putting them into a scrapbook so I have something to look back on.
Long distance friendships are always going to be hard for me to deal with and I think they’re going to be hard for a lot of people to deal with. But I honestly, I wouldn’t swap those friends for people who were closer because they really are worth it.