Growing and going through Secondary School, there were so many things that people had told me about being in secondary school. A year and a half after I’ve left and gone to sixth form, I started to realise that all of those things are necessarily true. So, here are four lies, or at least four statements that aren’t always true, about secondary school.

1) The friends you make here will last you the rest of your life. 
If I’m completely honest, there’s probably only one person that I talk to from my secondary school and I’ve known her since I was four. When I went to sixth form in another school, everyone else went to college and I didn’t really keep in touch with anyone. The people you meet in school aren’t always going to be the ones that you’ll keep for the rest of your life. You’ll start college/uni, or apprenticeships, or get a job and suddenly you’ll be in a pool of people who are interested in the exact same thing you are and they’ll be from all over the world. A lot of the time it can be easier to keep in touch with them. It isn’t the be all and end all if you don’t make friends with people that you’ll keep in touch with for the rest of your life in school.
2) Your exams will define the rest of your future 
I genuinely can’t stress this point enough. I don’t know the amount of assemblies that I sat through in year 10 and 11 that told me that the exams I was going to sit would mould what my future was going to be and if I didn’t do well or if I hadn’t picked my options wisely then I was going to struggle with college and university or whatever I would decide to do next. While I was happy with my GCSE grades, I knew people who weren’t but that didn’t stop them from going to college and they’re still doing the things that they want. There are so many different avenues to get to where you want to be. Your GCSEs aren’t going to be the one thing that will decide what you’re going to do for the rest of your life. It might take some more time and it might be a little more difficult but anything is possible.
3) You’ll figure out who you are.
There were a lot of occasions, especially when I was lower down the school, when I was told that the next five years where going to let me find who I was. It was going to let me find out everything there was to know about me but self growth is a continuous thing that happens through your entire life. Don’t get me wrong, I did grow as a person when I was in school and there were things that I found out about myself but I can tell you now, that I am nowhere near figuring out who I am. I change everyday. There are so many situations that have made me handle things differently, think about things differently and carry myself differently. There are people I know who didn’t manage to really grow as a person until they left school.
4) It’ll be the best five years of your life

Secondary school was not the best five years of my life by a landslide. Don’t get me wrong, there are memories that I look back at and they still make me laugh but when I look at those five years I can mostly remember wishing that it would be over. Now that I’m out of there, I don’t want to go back. I struggled a lot in secondary school for a lot of different reasons and I never felt like I had actually settled in. I know that there were people in my year group who did love school and who miss it and want to go back and there’s nothing wrong with that. But don’t feel like you’re missing out on something just because you didn’t enjoy your five years in school doesn’t mean that you’re missing out on something. For me, I’ve enjoyed my tie in sixth form so much more, it’s felt like somewhere I’ve settled in so much better.School isn’t a one size fits all. You don’t have to go through the same things as everyone else no matter how many family members and teachers will tell you things that will happen to you and that you’ll feel. You may love your time in secondary school or you may hate it and either way, that’s okay. If it isn’t something that you’ve enjoyed though, pull through it and try your best to look forward to better times. They’re always around the corner.